I don't say it often enough, but my husband is the most supportive, most generous, most awesome husband ever.
Occasionally, on a writer's e-loop I am a
When you're the one with the dream, the one who is reading the craft books, posting to loops and forums, entering contests, attending conferences, etc, all of this stuff makes perfect sense. The money and time is an investment in making your dream come true. And sometimes, we can have a skewed version of reality, one where no cost is too much, no effort or amount of time excessive. Tunnel vision becomes a way of life.
To someone on the outside, someone who doesn't have the same driving compulsion to create fictional worlds, all this effort and expense, the ups and downs, the hopes and despair, is confusing and incomprehensible. Why put yourself (and me) through this agony?
In light of this, it's not surprising that some people have a rough time explaining to their spouse the need to write, the expense they will incur, the time it takes.
I've been blessed because my husband has always fostered my dreams. He gives me time, space, money, emotional support, and anything else I might think I need. He's sent me to conferences, writing weekends, and coffee shops, supported my reading habits, gone to museums, taken countless pictures of artifacts, houses, signage, and landscapes, listened to me plot, cry, moan, squeal, and fuss.
He has always believed in me, and he's always been certain that no matter what my dreams were, that I could reach them.
I couldn't ask for a better partner on this writing journey. I love you, Peter Vetsch!
How about you? Does your husband/wife 'get it?'